Boundaries

Heeyy!  Look at that–our garden frog, covered in snow yesterday, is now completely uncovered!  AND–The Mom actually DID get out for a nice loong walk in that mild weather!  She’s discovered a longer route, that will help her “get to Rivendell” faster.

This picture is from last Spring–let the crocuses fill you with anticipation!

Today, we want to share from an interesting article (Focus on the Family again), so the “bad thing” is something adults know is NOT bad at all:  boundaries.  The article talks about how so many kids get things way to early for their age (cell phone, car, etc.)  The author is careful to say that it depends on the situation–for example, “eight-year-old Taylor has a cell phone, which she uses to call her mom at work while she stands at the bus stop alone every morning.”  In this case, the cell phone is quite necessary.  And of course, everyone matures at a different rate.  Here’s the interesting part we want to quote (The Mom loves opportunities to copy-type!):

“In cultures around the world, rites of passage help usher adolescents into adulthood.  These rituals, which can be either elaborate or simple, mark a critical moment in young people’s lives when they begin to take on adult roles and responsibilities.  In Latin America, a QUINCEANERA celebrates a daughter’s 15th birthday.  The party includes all her friends and relatives and begins with a waltz between the young woman and her father. [How sweet is that?]

In Japan, the SEIJIN SHIKI is an annual ceremony for all young adults who will turn 20 within the current school year.  Ladies dress in traditional kimonos and men in black business suits for the ceremony, which includes speeches by public officials and the giving of gifts.

Jewish boys and girls celebrate their BAR MITZVAH and BAT MITZVAH, respectively, at age 13.  They read publicly from the Torah for the first time and, as adults, are considered responsible for following the Jewish laws.

Some cultural observers suggest that the lack of coming-of-age rituals in North America has led to extended adolescence among young adults.  With no clues from their culture on when and how to be an adult, they continue many of their adolescent habits far into adulthood.”

Has Our Boy had any such rituals?

  • when he became a Beaver (the kindergarten stage of Cubs & Scouts)–it was a very meaningful and touching ceremony, involving the parents;
  • when he could read braille: he was finally allowed to have books on tape, and a talking watch rather than a braille one;
  • when he had his first communion; not something our church always does, but we did it ourselves (at the church, though)–by talking about it and giving a little present;
  • when the Tooth Fairy came for the last time, and left a little present instead of a coin.

Give parents wisdom Lord, for the multi-faceted task of raising children!

Walk to Rivendell:  We’re now coming up to a birch grove.

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