An Evening to Remember

Better write down these memories! A lot of it will be covered in the photos of course, which is something I still have to go through.

It all started with Rej saying we should have a party for me when I turn 60. Sam latched on to it, saying “Yeah, you never have a party for yourself, we should!” Then it was to decide how/what to do. While listening to some good old 60’s/70’s music, I was dancing as usual, and burst out with “I don’t want to be 60! I’d rather be a teenager!” So we decided to make the party on a Teenager theme, with dancing in the basement (like we used to do) to 70’s music (when I was a teenager), and late-night pizza. (There was  a question whether we’d be able to stay up that late, like we “used to do”, but it was no problem!) Sam saved up, and made a list of things to do, including urging me to make a slide show of photos–which were played on the tv screens both upstairs and down. (They included lots of other people who were in the photos as well.)

Two of my nieces were due to have babies right around the time of my birthday, so we chose the weekend before, to be sure that my sister and brother could make it. Then they BOTH ended up having their babies EARLY! :D

But my sister & husband did make it (my poor brother & wife came half-way, but he was on call, and got a call before he got here). Christine did an amazing job of decorating the place, while Sam & I were out picking up the cakes. Mom helped a lot (especially by things she had made before), and Dad blew up balloons. This part is covered pretty extensively in the photos: “roast”-type things (“nice” roasts) that were printed out, and scrap-book style memories that Mom had gathered with photos. I’m leaving those things for the LAST, to “clean up” after the party! In fact, this party is lasting awhile, when you think that Mom & Dad are coming over tomorrow to help us eat some of the leftover pizza, and the rest of the ice cream cake!

Thirty-odd people made it to the party, and it was quite wonderful seeing them all enjoy the 13-hour playlist of 60’s/70’s music that Sam had put together (remembering the songs, trying to guess the artists, etc.), enjoy each other, and a few of them even joined me to dance! Of course they enjoyed the pot luck supper as well, and the 70’s style root beer floats in mason jars, and the pretty penny-candy “store” that Christine had set up in the corner. (I remember how often we used to trek off to the corner store for such treats, and the special penny-candy sections that the small stores always had! No such things around these days!) Then there were TWO cakes, a Costco sheet cake (delicious filling!) and a scrumptious ice cream cake from Dairy Queen–both paid for by Sam. AND of course, the pizza arrived at 10:30, which he also paid for.

Each person who came was special. Dave was the first to arrive the week before, who had planned his yearly visit with Sam so that he could help out with the party. It ALWAYS feels like a holiday when he comes! Then came a couple from Toronto who we had met in our camping club years ago, who also bonded with us by going to the fitness club every morning (Rej & he), she also helped out at the kids’ club for awhile, and he was the one to call for a drive at 4 am, when Sam was on his way into this world!

The two other couples from Toronto: another camping club couple, who were younger like us, and who we used to spend a week’s holiday camping with sometimes; and Dave’s parents, who used to have us over fairly often for special meals (birthdays, Christmas, Thanksgiving, etc.). And several other friends in Toronto did send their regrets. When I included them in the invitations (Facebook Event), I didn’t really expect ANYONE to come all that way! But at least Penny got to visit her cousin while she was here. She also brought her two grandsons, who were amazingly well-behaved.

Of course I absolutely loved that my two BFF girlfriends from high school were able to make it. Glenda got up to dance quite a bit as well, and she looks soooo good! So these ladies pave the way for me not to be “afraid” of being 60, lol!

Crystal was there with her 6 kids (some the right age for Penny’s grandsons, yay), so I got to give a tour of my “new home” once again, and get all the “oohs” and “aaahs”. And I LOVE seeing the photos, and reminding myself that there were little girls in my house! They were playing upstairs for awhile before someone told them they shouldn’t, and when I went upstairs to bed, there was a huge pile of balloons in the corner beside my bed! I still have to go over the cards they made me.

Love that my cousin & family also made it, though it is a long drive from where they live in Quebec. She doesn’t believe in dancing, I think, but she kept smiling and giving me the “thumbs up” when I was up there twirling away–by myself at that point, I believe it was!

Of course, it was also gratifying to be able to show off my parents, and my HANDSOME brother! (I always talk about his looks, but he’s also very compassionate, smart, etc.!) There isn’t one of the guests, who if they hadn’t come, I would have been rather disappointed… Even though the disappointment of the few who couldn’t make it, did not really spoil anything. ;)

We were very glad that Rej’s niece and her boyfriend made it, and she even followed Christine’s suggestion of trying to dress to match the era–in her cute check-dress! I’d forgotten about that, but yes, I did wear several checkered clothes “back then”.

So the party was to start at 4 pm, with pot luck supper at 6, IF people wanted to come for that; then pizza at 10:30. Some left before the pizza, which was also expected.

When we chose the date, we didn’t even realize that it was a long weekend (Family Day), which turned out great for those coming with kids. It meant that we were able to eat up the leftovers (mostly), the next day with the two camping club couples, and have a great visit with them, playing Brain Strain afterwards (which is great for including the kids/Penny’s grandsons).

Some people brought gifts even though they weren’t supposed to. But you know, it’s really, really true: the BEST gift was the people being there!!


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…and you never knew it…

Someday, you’re going to look back and realize, when you think of the myriad special moments… someday, hopefully sooner rather than later, you’re going to think of all the wonders you’ve seen–intricate nature, fascinating science, amazing math-minds, beautiful music… fellowship of friends and family–

Someday, you’re going to realize, that God was there all along. That “the earth is FULL of the glory of the Lord!” (Isaiah 6:3)

Of course I knew this before, but a certain speaker I heard recently pointed it out to me afresh. Usually when I read that verse quoted above, I think of God’s creation in nature. But it’s also true about the one he created “in his own image”–the amazing qualities of man, and what man is able to do. And especially this: just because someone doesn’t realize it, doesn’t mean that God isn’t there working through them, resulting in all kinds of wonderful things that bring glory to God.

This is another way to think about what our pastor mentioned not too long ago, that just because something isn’t specifically “Christian” (talking about Christ or made by a Christian), doesn’t mean we shouldn’t enjoy it as something from God. Which, as he said, is a temptation these days when Christians are creating a lot of quality art, etc.

So, when I’m working on fixing up my myriad of photos, it’s not a useless activity that has no purpose for God’s Kingdom. (Yes, I have wondered about it sometimes–it takes up so much time!) It’s something that can reflect God’s glory, and yes, even has the potential to point someone to God. The earth is full of the glory of the Lord! That verse has become my theme, these days… though it doesn’t have a lot to do with my One Word (love). :)


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Love is Everywhere

It would be impossible to make note of every time I come across the word “Love”, for my One Word for this year, so I’ve been trying to decide what to do with it. Even if I listed a Bible verse about love for every day of the year, they would never all be covered!

What I’ve decided, for now anyway, is to note the first reference I come to, each day; mostly coming back to edit this post. (Or at least, the first one when I remember to watch for it!) <EDIT: So now I’ve decided to change it up each season. The next season is LENT, but tomorrow (last day before Lent) I’ll decide what to do!>

Now, one final thing about love–about how it’s important to love yourself, in order to love others better. I’ve finally decided on my exercise goals for this season (and for my new fitbit): 6,000 steps to begin with, since I’ve been close to that a few times (the recommended 10,000 steps seems unattainable–though my Dad does it!) I’ll watch how that affects my “active minutes”, and adjust that goal accordingly. Right now it’s set at 15 minutes, which I don’t often reach, but when I do, it’s usually near 20 minutes. So we’ll see. My weight goal is just not to gain too much, and I’m NOT going to weigh myself very often! For example, I’m loathe to get on the scales so close to Christmas…

The trick is to care about these things without being obsessed about them.

EDITS for daily One Word (Love):

  • January 23 – in my prayer app under Interserve’s article about how God is using women in Iran: See what love the Father has given us, that we should be called children of God; and that is what we are.” (1 John 3:1) And I can’t help adding to that Compassion’s quote, “Christian love is more than a feeling. It includes a hatred for sin and a love for what is godly.”
  • January 24 – “This is how we’ve come to understand and experience love: Christ sacrificed his life for us. This is why we ought to live sacrificially for our fellow believers, and not just be out for ourselves. If you see some brother or sister in need and have the means to do something about it but turn a cold shoulder and do nothing, what happens to God’s love? It disappears. And you made it disappear.” (1 John 3:16-17, from Compassion devotional)
  • January 25 – “Truly, I love your commands more than gold, even the finest gold.” (Psalm 119:127, from my prayer app.)
  • January 26 – “Are these part of your prayer life? Worship, praise, gratitude, love, thankfulness, adoration.” (from Life of Christ gospel devotional, beginning study on The Lord’s Prayer, “Our Father… hallowed be thy name...”)
  • January 27 – “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.” (Matthew 22:37-40, from Compassion devotional).
  • January 29 – “…Their kings chained and hauled off to jail, their leaders behind bars for good, The judgment on them carried out to the letter–and all who love God in the seat of honor!” (from Psalm 149:8-9)
  • January 30 – LOVE OTTAWA: “the city-reaching effort in Canada’s capital that over the last 18 yrs has churches working and praying together to bless the city.” This organization is scheduled to come up regularly in my prayer app, as it did this morning.
  • January 31 – “I’m homesick, God, for your salvation; I love it when you show yourself! (from Psalm 119:174, prayer app)
  • February 2 – “What is desirable for a person is to show loyal love.” (Proverbs 19:22, prayer app “Get Wise”)
  • February 4 – “May we love others so much that we are delighted to share with others not only the gospel of God, but our lives as well.” (from prayer app & 1 Thess. 2:8)
  • February 6 – (keep forgetting to think about this starting in the morning) “God’s Love for When You Feel Lonely, Try this tip the next time you need to feel God’s love.”  A Guideposts article that suggests when you’re lonely, writing notes to others who might feel lonely.
  • February 8 – On this day when Roseanne is to go in to have her baby, I’ve first found the word in Nancy Lahn’s post of her baby, sitting “naked as a jay bird” (as a baby), of Daniel, who turns 24 today! “Happy birthday to our super creative, hard-working, caring, wacky 24-year-old!!! Love you so much!”
  • February 9 – “May _____ love others more and more”, from prayer app, Biblical Prayers, 1 Thessalonians 4:10. Which goes right along with what I’ve just read in 1 John 4:20-21!
  • February 11 – (missed days means I forgot to think about it; today there may have been instances sooner, but I have to start looking when I remember…): Let love and faithfulness never leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart.” (Proverbs 3:3, from Compassion’s prayer-for-each-day for your compassion child.)
  • February 13 – “Whoever pursues righteousness and unfailing love will find life, righteousness, and honor.” (Proverbs 21:21, prayer app)
  • February 14th! “May he be overwhelmed with Your love,” – a good thing to pray for anyone!
  • February 25th – (Ach! So much love everywhere, all the time! How long can this continue? Bothering to make note of the first instance, I mean. Of course, I skipped a whole bunch… see the next posts!) – Mostly what God does is love you. Keep company with him and learn a life of love. Observe how Christ loved us. His love was not cautious but extravagant. He didn’t love in order to get something from us but to give everything of himself to us. Love like that.” (Ephesians 5:2)
  • February 26 – “…even in the midst of deep sorrow, loss, or consequences from sin, God’s love for us is great…” (from prayer app, “Because of the Lord’s great love, we are not consumed, for His compassions never fail. They are  new every morning. Great is Your faithfulness.” (Lamentations 3:22-23)
  • February 27 – “Cause us to be united in and through the Trinity so that we might be united together, as a church, in love.” from prayer app
  • February 28 – “…Though you bring grief, You will show compassion, so great is Your unfailing love. (Lamentations 3:32, prayer app,


SUM for winter (Jan/Feb):

  • 12 out of 20 are from my prayer app;
  • 14 out of 20 are scripture;
  • 3 out of 20 are from Compassion;
  • 3 out of 20 are from devotionals;
  • a couple from articles, and one from Facebook!


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Compassion Requires Understanding

I’ve read over some really neat notes this morning, that I made from a Henri Nouwen article. It’s actually a blog post where I quote myself, talking about people having “sympathy” for us because of Rej and Sam.

And now I’ve written this post just to give you a link to something where I quote something else! Sorry about that, but you know what just hitting the “Share” button does… (causes people to flip by, assuming they’re like me…)

Another reason for doing this, is the subject matter, which has to do with my One Word for this year. Compassion, and getting to know people, wow, from 2007!


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Love Carried Me

It seems I’m becoming personally acquainted with more and more missionaries. There’s a family from Good Shepherd that I pray for all the time, there a couple of my Perspectives students on my missions-prayer list now (naturally), and now there will be a couple from our small group, who are moving back to Africa. Also, there is a lady who was working with me on Wednesday mornings with the 3-year-olds, who went to Peru on her mission just before Christmas.

She has a very sweet spirit, and was always good with the little ones (she’s actually a teacher). In Peru, she works at an orphanage, where many children have been given up because they are handicapped. Her newsletters are beautifully written, and she also has a blog. One reason I’ve had to tell you all about her, is to explain where I found this beautiful thing–the words to a song that I don’t even know (“Carried to the Table”):

Wounded and forsaken
I was shattered by the fall
Broken and forgotten
Feeling lost and all alone
Summoned by the King

Into the Master’s courts
Lifted by the Savior
And cradled in His arms
I was carried to the table
Seated where I don’t belong
Carried to the table
Swept away by His love

And I don’t see my brokenness anymore
When I’m seated at the table of the Lord
I’m carried to the table
The table of the Lord

Fighting thoughts of fear
And wondering why He called my name
Am I good enough to share this cup
This world has left me lame
Even in my weakness
The Savior called my name
In His Holy presence
I’m healed and unashamed

You carried me, my God
You carried me.

And now I’ve just remembered that this comes from the Old Testament story where David tells Jonathan’s son, who is lame, that he is to eat at the King’s table every day. The promise for Christ-followers (now or in the future), is to be “healed and unashamed”… wait… scratch that about “now or in the future”–because “In His Holy presence”, we ARE healed, even if not physically (though it WILL be physical, in that Day when we are physically in His presence!)


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Love = Joy

It was rather fitting that the first sermon of the year was full of the subject “Love”, my One Word for 2017! Our Young Adults pastor did an excellent job preaching on John 15, about “Abiding in Christ”, and was very passionate when he came to the part about love.

Of course, he emphasized how important it is, as Christ-followers, to be into God’s Word–and not just reading it, but letting it “get into” you. This passage is pretty clear about that. Jesus says “if you make yourselves at home with me and my words [scripture] are at home in you”– this is The Message translation, making “dwell” clear with “at home”–if you do that, “you can be sure that whatever you ask will be listened to and acted upon.”

These verses talk about having results, or “producing fruit”, so part of that has to do with asking for things according to God’s will revealed in scripture. The reason to have results, is to point to God, so more and more people will know they are loved by Him: “This is how my Father shows who he is”. Jesus says, “When you’re joined with me and I with you, the relation intimate and organic, the harvest is sure to be abundant.”

And how do we keep that relationship alive (“organic”), and “remain at home” in God’s love? Jesus makes it pretty clear: “If you keep my commands [as revealed in the Bible], you’ll remain intimately at home in my love.” And just a few lines later he says, “This is my command: Love one another the way I loved you.” There are so many fickle “love” declarations around these days, but this one is about loving sacrificially.

Jesus also demonstrates his love in these very verses, by explaining why he’s saying these things: “I’ve told you these things for a purpose: that my joy might be your joy”.

I didn’t actually make notes on Kenny’s sermon, but these are such wonderful verses, that it’s easy to read them over and come up with LOTS to say!

So go get God’s word into you: John 15:1-17 :)


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“Most of all, love each other as if your life depended on it.” (1 Peter 4)

My year-end thoughts were pretty clear on a couple of things:

  1. I knew what I’d learned this year: to persevere in prayer, especially for loved ones who don’t yet know Christ; always keeping in mind that God answers/does things that are far above what we can ever think or imagine. Of course, I knew this before, but this year I “learned it more”. (And just as an “extra”, this was also the year that I learned to “talk” less–even though I can still post quite a few brag-photos, several days can go by before I update my status; and of course it’s now rare to update my blog… I got tired of myself!)
  2. I knew what I wished for myself, for next year: that I would be better at sharing Christ, face to face. It’s easy to say things on Facebook, or in a blog. But face to face, I just don’t do it. Even though my “calling” seems to be to help Christians grow; and not that I want to be forced or uncomfortable. But there is an urgency after all, just like it’s important to let people know that you love them (that idea that you never know when you won’t have the chance to say it again). Yeah, speaking of love…

Year-end is also time to think of my One Word, and what it might be for 2017. It hasn’t been anything amazing for me in the past, but I still enjoy doing it. As it is with anything when I ask God for wisdom, it begins with me having absolutely no idea. Yet, there’s usually excitement, as I think of how willing God is to answer, when you ask for wisdom or guidance; and so there was this time.

In my email was a link for a “personal retreat”, which I worked through without much enthusiasm for their questions–since there was no “personal baggage” from 2016 that I needed to attend to, no real “failures” to deal with and move on. Unless it was the failure mentioned above: not sharing the gospel face to face. I’d read somewhere recently that if we really love people, we should have a desire to share Christ with them….

Yeah, maybe that was it. Knowing that I can be quite self-absorbed, often thoughtless, and having a slightly guilty feeling about all that I possess for my personal comfort… maybe it’s because I need to love better. Even when we had International students over for Christmas Dinner, the main reason was to make sure of a good “crowd” for that Christmas-y feeling, and to expand our own horizons by meeting people from another country. So don’t pat me on the back for any sacrifice on my part!

“Love” is such a common, over-used word. When it first suggested itself for my One Word for 2017, I totally rejected it. Way too general! But a One Word after all, shouldn’t be based on how “chic” it is. So I read over the verses provided at the end of that “personal retreat” (“To help refine your search, examine a few scriptures that speak of virtues that have the potential to become your One Word: 1 Corinthians 13:4–8, Colossians 3:12–17, 1 Peter 4:7–11, Galatians 5:22–23.”) And of course, the main “virtue” in these verses is Love. Also, I’d just read a reminder that God’s assignment for us each day, can be accomplished if we concentrate on truly loving those we are in contact with. (Mind you, this will always have in the background for me, the lesson learned in Perspectives: that we humans are not capable of keeping up a love-for-the-world, it usually becomes too exhausting. We do things/be missional because God commands us to.)

I’ve never been so sure, so quickly, about my One Word for the next year. It was what happened at the end of this devotional time, that solidified it (even though I had to let it “percolate” overnight). Thinking about how one year, I talked about how it was fun to look at the One Word in an opposite way, or come at if from a different angle, I soon sensed God clearly saying to me, “This is what I want you to remember about this One Word, Love:

I. love. you.”


Of course, we always know that God loves us, and there have been many times over the years, that I’ve been overwhelmed with God’s love. When I was a teenager, “God is love” was such a common phrase that I think we became numb to it. In recent years, my worship has been inspired by God’s mightiness, his sovereignty, etc. Perspectives brought home the amazingness of God’s work through the centuries, and my Word for last year highlighted one of my favourite truths, that God. is. working–a silver “thread” that you can’t always see.

Last year’s word was mainly a way to praise God, and note his wonderful creation, through posting photos on Facebook (with a weird hashtag). This year, I guess I’ll have to start blogging again, to keep track of this word!

Actually, it’s something I’ve been praying for awhile–if you think I’m praying for you, I probably am, and this is what I’ve been praying: that you would be overwhelmed with God’s love. As I have been.

Because everything else kinda follows.


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We nominate Albert Roffey…

So here is what Randy & I submitted, to nominate Dad for the Chris Beer Award, at the “Champions Challenge”, and what Randy used for his speech at the dinner:

The whole story can be found in myriad photos, blog posts, Facebook events, etc. The first photo that comes to mind is from 2008, of Dad with his son and grandson, who had done the Meech Lake Triathlon as a relay with him—his very first time, at 73, to do any race. We drove our Facebook friends crazy, being over-the-top proud.

The next year he did the “Try-a-Tri” in September, and the memorable photos are of his kids, grandkids and great grandkids surprising him by joining him over the finish line. Of course he was hooked, and each year he has been doing the Champion’s Challenge, involving at least three triathlons over the season.

So many photos! There’s one of Dad wearing a funny “No Passing” sign on his back, and one of him pointing his finger as if to say “YOU can do it too!” There are a few of him stopping before the finish to greet his cheerleaders, especially the little ones who ran up to him for a hug and kiss. From the beginning, he has been totally thrilled to hear of others being inspired by his stamina.

On his wall behind his lazy boy, he proudly hangs dozens of 1st place banners, each with their own story of hard work and training, such as the year he had a knee replaced in the winter but decided to sign up for the early bird anyway to help motivate his recovery. Interestingly enough, in all these years racing I don’t think once there has been another participant in his division. Even dad might question what is a First if you are the only competitor. But when you stop and think about it, he showed up at the start line and finished every time. Dad will always be first place to his family.

It takes a special kind of person to train all winter and summer for 3 races each year at his age! Like any triathlete he is a competitive guy, always wanting to be a little faster, and try not to finish last. He challenges anyone to not let him catch them.  Over the years he and his bright red/green race shirt have made a lot of friends on the course. I love hearing them, “wow did you see that… that guy is 80!!” Or they cheer him on. For dad though, it’s never been about winning. It’s about encouraging his family. Often he will say “if I can do it you can do it”. We have seen him inspire even mom to start swimming in her 70’s, right down to inspiring so many family members to race this past summer. For him that has made it all worth it.

And if you’ve ever watched him race, you know it’s not easy for him. You can feel his agony, along with the great relief when it’s finally all over. Just ask his “favourite cheerleader”, with whom he celebrated his 60th year of marriage, this past August. Then, each year after the May triathlon, he goes home and barbecues for all his beloved cheerleaders!

Dad has always had a desire to see people be active and healthy, and for several years he had us run a “100 Day Family Challenge” at the beginning of the year, to get everyone to exercise, in any way that was best for them. This year he turned 80, and how could we refuse his request for as much family as possible, to join him at the Early Bird Triathlon in May? Altogether, he inspired three relay teams, and three other individuals to sign up, including his sister, some nieces, his kids, grandkids, and even one of his great-grandsons! Whoever couldn’t actually race, was there to cheer us on!

Dad has always been so thrilled to have his family come out and cheer him on, but I know that having them actually participate this year, was worth more to him then ANY Gold! And that says a whole lot about who he is, and why he inspires us.

Randy may say he just did some “tweaking”, but he also did two large paragraphs. I think we worked well as a team! Of course, it was great “subject matter”… :D


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Multiplication not Addition

There have been a lot of great articles to read lately, and some are just calling me to make notes on them!

One by Mike Breen shows how humans can be such creatures of overreaction, “choosing polarities rather than living in tension”. It seems like not long ago that Christian leaders were saying how we were becoming too “inward”, constantly singing songs about our own personal relationship with Jesus. Apparently, the opposite is now true in some places, with a movement to have “missional communities”, where people neglect their personal development as disciples–being “obsessed with the work of the Kingdom, with no idea how to be with the King”. It’s the old thing of “Be-ing” vs “Do-ing”.

We usually think of discipleship as “doing” things, but the “long obedience in the same direction” includes other things: as Mike Breen explains, discipleship is “the boot camp training for front lines, the hospital when people are wounded, and the off-duty time needed to rest and recuperate”. The key words he uses are Character and Competency; remembering, humbly, that “apart from [Jesus] we can do nothing”. If you send people out without those things, it’s a recipe for burnout.

If we look at it objectively, we see churches with discipling cultures (that focus mainly on the transformation of individual self) and churches with missional cultures (which focus on the transformation of the world/people around us) and we often see tensions between these two camps.

One has a clue, but no cause. The other has a cause, but no clue. High mission/low discipleship church cultures have issues with Biblical literacy, theological reflection and deficiencies in character and Creed that, in the end, sabotage the very mission they’re about.

…High discipleship/low mission church cultures have a strength in the previous issues, but lack the adventurous spirit/heart of compassion and Kingdom compulsion that so stirred the Father into action that he sent his only Son to a world he so loved.”

Obviously, his argument is that BOTH are important, and goes on to explore more about discipleship… which does not mean addition, but multiplication. In other words, you make disciples who make disciples. And it’s obvious to me, that you do this with small groups.

I’m so thankful that, not only does our church have a strong missions emphasis, but they are very good at small groups!


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Blessed to be a blessing

Yikes, I’ve signed up for yet another email feed! Not sure how often this one updates, but it was recommended by our church plant, and has some really good articles/resources. Plus, it’s all about being missional.

For example, an article about the question of celebrating Hallowe’en: “For most of us, Halloween isn’t a time where we celebrate the dead and go and skin a goat and sacrifice it to Satan…. It has become just part of our culture in the West and has very little to do with the “darkness”…it’s not good, it’s not evil…it’s just something we celebrate…” He (Seth McBee) suggests that lots of evil things happen on other holidays that we celebrate without question (drinking too much, etc.), and that God wants to redeem all things back to himself.

You see, there is no holiday like Hallowe’en, for its opportunity to meet people and befriend them, which is where missioning begins. Jesus went to parties and was accused of spending time with “drunkards”. The thing is, you can alienate yourself from those new friends in two ways: 1) by not opening your home to them on Hallowe’en (this author even suggests that church “harvest parties” are bad, because they take everyone away from their community, and your neighbours get to know you as the mean people who don’t hand out); or 2) by handing out apples wrapped in tracts, or dressing your child like Martin Luther. Two extremes, two ways to scare people away.

Jesus always pursued the sinner, meeting them where they were, engaging them in ways that they’d understand who God is and how he loves us. “Jesus used the everyday celebrations as a way to build relationships so he could speak into the lives of those around him.  He was continually at parties.” So, this author says that we should “be THAT house”–the one that gives out the best candy, and is the most welcoming. One of his ideas I saw put into practise by a good friend in Toronto: have hot cider/hot chocolate etc., available for the parents.

Maybe it’s an excuse, but I’m always cautious about acting in ways that would be out of character for myself. Yes, I love to entertain, but I’m not really an extrovert type of person. If I was to overdo this kind of thing, it would only end up awkward and embarrassing. Nevertheless, I love these ideas!

One other thing he talks about that was a lesson to me: you know how Paul talks about eating meat sacrificed to idols, and how it might be okay for us, but we shouldn’t cause our brother to stumble? Paul was talking about new Christians who actually used to do that–eat meat sacrificed to idols.

Here’s how to contextualize for Halloween:

If you have a brother who used to worship Satan and they used to sacrifice goats and drink its blood, then it might be a good idea to work through Halloween with them and whether or not it would make that brother stumble.  This does NOT mean, if you have a brother who thinks it’s merely wrong to celebrate Halloween then you should put it to the side.

Because, shouldn’t we educate our brothers on this great missional opportunity? Just remember: “Don’t use this holiday to make a point.  Use this holiday to point to the true reason we all get to celebrate and bless…Jesus… He was about parties because that’s where people were and that’s where people connect and share stories and start and continue relationships…. Christians shouldn’t be the ones avoided for parties, but should be the ones that people are most excited to have come around because they bring the “better wine.”

I should have just shared the whole article with you, haha! If you do want to read it, you have to sign up for a (free) membership at “Vergenetwork”. The title of this one is “3 Practical Ways to be Missional This Halloween; Or, Why Jesus Wouldn’t Attend the Harvest Party at Your Church”.


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